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God Forced Me to Remarry Months After My Wife’s Death–Apostle Madubuko

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God Forced Me to Remarry Months After My Wife's Death--Apostle Madubuko

By Dipo Olowookere

When General Overseer of Revival Assembly Church in Lagos, Apostle Anselm Madubuko, decided to remarry some months after the death of his wife, Pastor (Mrs) Connie Madubuko, in 2012, many people castigated him.

However, in an interview with The Punch, the cleric claimed God forced him to remarry very fast.

According to the man of God, he never had the intention of taking another wife.

Apostle Madubuko also said when he remarried, many single ladies and married woman pestering him for marriage left his church.

He also talked about other issues, including fatherhood.

How would you describe fatherhood?

I believe fatherhood is an assignment given by God to some people on earth. When one begins to understand that fatherhood is a godly assignment, then such person takes it seriously.

Personally, there is nothing like being a father because it keeps reminding me of my Heavenly father. It is not an easy assignment, but I see it as a privilege to be a father.

What has been your biggest challenge as a father?

The biggest challenge any good father faces is when your kids are not living up to your expectations. Everyone, including God, has expectations from people. God expects us that at a certain age, we should be able to do certain things. I believe that when we are not doing all those things, He is not happy.

How many children are you blessed with?

I have three kids, but spiritually, I have many kids. My first child is a boy, followed by two girls. I have two grandchildren.I have always prayed to God to give me good kids. I didn’t care about the sex. This is a thing people should know about. For me, the important thing is for the kids to be taken care of because they are God’s gifts.

Were you scared when you wanted to start a family?

I got married quite early at 26. I was 28 when I had my first kid. At that point, I wanted to get married. I was not bothered about anything because I knew God was in charge. I have learnt in life never to worry about things I cannot control.

Why did you marry at 26?

I cannot really say. I had completed university education and I became born again. If I was not saved by God, I am not sure I would have married when I did. When I gave my life to Christ at 25, everything about me changed completely and I had nothing else to do but to get married.

How did you meet your wife?

My late wife was working in a computer firm in Ikoyi, Lagos. We ran into each other on a particular day and we became good friends. After I got saved, she became my first convert to Christ.

Did your wife play hard to get when you showed interest in her?

Those days, women were not a problem for me and I had a very good relationship with women.

Were you in the labour room with your wife during the birth of any of your children?

I always didn’t want to experience it and I tried to avoid it. I couldn’t even follow my wife to the hospital to get an injection; I couldn’t imagine seeing her go through pains. I made sure I was not around whenever she wanted to give birth.

How did you feel while carrying your first child?

It was a mixed feeling. I was thankful to God for the child but I also knew more responsibilities had come too. When she gave birth to our first child, I was in Lagos but not in the hospital.

How do you reward your children anytime they make you happy?

It depends on what is happening at that moment. When my kids were in the university, I made sure they were comfortable and promised to get them a car or other things once they did well. I tried to keep to my own part of the bargain.God Forced Me to Remarry Months After My Wife's Death--Apostle MadubukoHow did you punish them for wrongdoing when they were young?

I did not punish them but their mother did. She was the person who trained them and she was strong enough for them. Most cases, she would have dealt with them before telling me what they did wrong. I didn’t always punish them because I felt children should not be punished twice for a crime. Though there were a few cases I talked to them, I cannot remember using the cane on any of my children. I do not say it is good or bad to discipline children, but I didn’t do it.

How do you manage your roles as a pastor and father?

I have not done it well. I ended up leaving my kids with their mother while they were growing up. I was always travelling to one place or the other. Growing up, they knew their mother more than their father. That is my regret. I was busy working for God. Given another chance, I would wish to balance things in a way that my children would not suffer my absence. I have tried my best to correct my mistakes as they grew older and they aren’t doing badly now.

What did you learn from your father which is now useful in training your children?

My father taught my siblings and me how to be satisfied in life. That is why we are not greedy people in my family. Growing up, we were happy with whatever God gave us. We didn’t covet others’ blessing. I have inculcated this in my kids. I always tell them to be thankful to God and never to get too anxious about the next day, as God has promised to take care of tomorrow once they work hard.

How would you describe your father?

He was a nice and quiet man. He didn’t drink, smoke or party.

When was your happiest moment as a father?

That would be when my first daughter gave birth in the United States of America three years ago. I couldn’t explain the excitement and I cannot forget that day.

What event do you consider as the low moment of your life?

I have had many low moments in my life. I felt terrible when I lost my father and mother. My father died at 70. I didn’t expect him to die when he died. For me, I consider anyone who dies at 70 a young person. Ninety is the best age to die.My father was there for me all my life; he sacrificed a lot for his kids. But before he died, I was not in a position to do much for him. However, my mother lived above 90. She had a good life.

Why didn’t you take your wife’s death as the low point of your life?

As stated before, I have many low points. But when my father died, I felt worst than my wife’s death. I cannot explain why it appeared so.

When did your wife die?

She died in 2012. I didn’t expect her to die when she did and I was not in the country. I left Nigeria on a Wednesday night and we still spoke when I got to the airport. The next thing I heard on Friday was that she had passed on.

What caused her death?

She was not sick; it was a sudden death. If she had been ill, I wouldn’t have left her. As a strong woman that she was, she didn’t show signs of weakness as well. Our family doctor of over 25 years did his best but told me there was no life in her any longer.I was more confused than annoyed when I heard the news of my wife’s death. I was too shocked to feel anything. She was in her 50s when she died; we were age mates. The only time I felt bad was the day of her burial as it dawned on me that she was really dead. But before then, I kept thinking she would wake up because she was really a strong woman. I couldn’t go to the mortuary to see her, but I had to see her during the lying-in-state.

How did you comfort your children during the period?

My children are strong kids. They had all finished their university education in Canada when their mother died. We are a free and happy family. Whenever we are together, they don’t relate to me as their father.

How did your children react to your decision to remarry?

My children were happy when I told them I wanted to remarry. They knew I would be in the hands of a good woman. When my wife died, they didn’t want me to be left alone; they were always checking on me. In a way, I was disturbing them because they couldn’t live a day without worrying about me.But it was God who told me to remarry even though I did not take another wife. I even said it on the pulpit that I would not remarry. But God, who saw things I didn’t see, told me I must marry and marry fast. Now, I know why He said it and I thanked God I followed His direction.

Were you not worried that people could condemn you for remarrying a year after your wife’s death?

Of course, my decision to remarry generated a lot of attention from the public but I don’t care about such a thing. When my heart doesn’t condemn me, I don’t care. I don’t need to impress everyone. I don’t need to prove anything to anyone because I owe only God my life. Those close to me knew I was led by God.When my wife passed on, every woman wanted to marry me. I was getting text messages from different women, who were telling me that God told them I was their husband. I got messages from members of my church and other women. If I had stayed unmarried for two years, I cannot imagine what would have happened to me. When I finally remarried, many single women and even married ones left the church. This is not a joke; it happened. I thank God I didn’t promise anyone marriage or was dating anyone; I didn’t owe anyone anything. Also, I didn’t need to marry anyone recommended to me.

Why did you settle for a Kenyan when you had many options?

I knew the lady many years ago when I went to preach in Mombasa, Kenya. Then, my first wife was still alive and I told my friend that I liked the way she sang and carried herself. They spoke well about her and told me her father was a bishop. Later, I invited her team to Nigeria to sing in my church and people loved them. At that point, there was nothing between us.But many people believed we were having a secret affair even when my wife was alive, but I didn’t go out with her or touch her until we married. I also admired the fact that she did not trouble me for marriage like many others.

How did she react when you told her about your marriage plans?

When I told her I wanted to marry her, she felt it was strange. I was yet to know her well too. She told me I was too old for her. She said I was more like a mentor. It was God who convinced her and her family. How many fathers would allow their daughters to go to Nigeria for marriage? They read many negative things about us daily. Also, she was a single and young lady while I was a widower with three kids. There are many things that didn’t make sense naturally. But her father is a man of God and God touched him. I thank God it was her because I couldn’t have chosen anyone better.

What comes to mind when you read negative things about you?

I don’t bother myself about what people say about me because it is part of life. It was reported that I was having an affair with an artiste’s wife but he is my son and still worships in my church. Nothing can break me; gossips mean nothing to me. They are people who do not like me for reasons best known to them and they will always look for opportunities to tarnish my image.

How do you advise children without fathers?

God has plans for everyone. If you don’t have a father, kindly take God as your father and look for a mentor. When your biological father dies, you should pray to God to give you a good father that will love and guide you. When you have good parents, it is hard for you to join cultism or pick up other vices. These things are devil’s ways to destroy destinies. If you look around now, most kids are into one bad society or the other. If your parents are not godly, it is dangerous.

Dipo Olowookere is a journalist based in Nigeria that has passion for reporting business news stories. At his leisure time, he watches football and supports 3SC of Ibadan. Mr Olowookere can be reached via dipo.olowookere@businesspost.ng

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Mr Eazi Climbs 115 Steps to 70 on Spotify Top Artists Chart

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By Dipo Olowookere

Music act-cum-entrepreneur, Mr Eazi, has recorded the biggest movement upward on the Spotify Top Artists Chart this week, taking 115 steps higher to number 70, according to data released by the entertainment outfit.

The 30-year-old artist, who was born in Port Harcourt as Oluwatosin Ajibade, is the pioneer of Banku Music, a fusion of sound he describes as a mixture of Ghanaian highlife and Nigerian chord progressions and patterns, according to his Wikipedia page.

Since he gained the limelight a few years ago, he has remained relevant, churning out tunes that have endeared him to his teeming fans across Nigeria and beyond.

On the same chart, Mellow & Sleazy had the slot of the highest new entry at number 194, while an embattled Grammy award winner, Burna Boy, maintained his ranking as the longest-reigning artist on the log with an 18-week run this week.

The top 5 artists of this week are Burna Boy, Asake, Davido, Drake and WizKid in that order.

On the Top Songs Table, the highest new entry is Big Energy by LADIPOE at number 17, while Baddest Boy by Skiibii moved up an impressive 42 places to number 123, with Burna Boy’s Last Last as the highest at number 2, and Omo Ope by Asake feat. Olamide on the charts for 18 weeks straight.

But the number spot on the log was taken by PALAZZO by SPINALL & Asake, followed by Last Last by Burna Boy; Overloading (OVERDOSE) by Mavins, Crayon, Ayra Starr, LADIPOE, Magixx, Boy Spyce; Buga (Lo Lo Lo) by Kizz Danie & Tekno; and Loving You by Zinoleesky.

On the Top Albums Charts, Ctrl by SZA is the highest climber with 132 steps to number 41, while BTS has the most spots on the chart in Nigeria, with Proof the highest new entry at number 2. WizKid’s Made in Lagos Deluxe Edition has been on the table the longest for 18 consecutive weeks.

On top of the log is Rave and Rose by Rema, Proof by BTS is second, Made in Lagos Deluxe Edition by WizKid is third, Mr Morale & The Big Steppers by Kendrick Lamar is fourth, while B A H D by Falz is sitting on the fifth spot.

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Burna Boy, Asake Dominate This Week’s Spotify Charts

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By Dipo Olowookere

In the latest charts released by a leading streaming platform, Spotify, Grammy winner, Burna Boy and a new kid in the bloc, Asake, are in charge, with the former retaining his ranking on the Top Artists log as the longest artist for the 17th week.

However, 1da Banton was the biggest climber in the week after taking 55 steps to number 74, while Niniola has the slot of the highest new entry at number 178.

As for the top five, Burna Boy was on top, followed by Post Malone, Davido, Asake and Kizz Daniel in that order.

In the Top Songs category, Last Last by Burna Boy had the most spots in Nigeria at number 2, while I Like You (A Happier Song) (with Doja Cat) by Post Malone and Doja Cat got the highest new entry at number 36. Montego Bay by Naira Marley climbed an impressive 125 places to number 54 to claim the biggest winner position, while Omo Ope (feat. Olamide) by Asake remained on the Top Songs charts for 17 weeks straight.

A look at the Top 5 songs showed that the first spot was occupied by Palazzo by DJ Spinall & Asake, with second, third, fourth and fifth places taken by Last Last by Burna Boy; Overloading (Overdose) by Mavins, Crayon, Ayra Starr, Ladipoe, Magixx, Boy Spyce; Buga (Lo Lo Lo) by Kizz Danie & Teknol; and Loving You by Zinoleesky respectively.

On the Top Albums chart, Twelve Carat Toothache by Post Malone ranked as the highest new entry this week at number one. Stoney (Deluxe) by Post Malone moved up by 40 slots as the biggest winner at number 82, while WizKid’s Made in Lagos Deluxe Edition claimed the most spots at number 4, staying on the chart for the 17th week.

The Top 5 albums in Nigeria on Spotify Charts are Twelve Carat Toothache by Post Malone, Rave and Rose by Rema, Mr Morale & The Big Steppers by Kendrick Lamar, Made in Lagos Deluxe Edition by WizKid, and I Never Liked You by Future.

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Airtel Touching Lives Season 6 Hits TV Screens Tomorrow

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By Modupe Gbadeyanka

From Saturday, June 11, 2022, fans and followers of the award-winning reality television programme, Airtel Touching Lives, will begin to watch season 6 of the show.

A statement from the organisers of the programme disclosed that before the premiere this weekend, subscribers of Airtel Nigeria can catch the first episode on Airtel TV from Thursday, June 9 via https://prod-content-tv-stream.cloudmi.datami.com/s/zPRUXmI4BF3Z9SvH_DMI or by downloading the Airtel TV App on IOS and Android play stores.

It was stated that non-subscribers will have to wait till tomorrow to see the show across terrestrial and cable television stations.

According to the broadcast schedule released by Airtel Nigeria, the first episode will air on Africa Magic Family Channel 154 and GOTV Channel 2 from 6:00 p.m. to 6:30 p.m. on Saturday. The same episode will air from 7:00 pm to 7:30 pm on AIT Channel 253 on DSTV. On Sunday, from 5:30 p.m. to 6:00 p.m., a rerun will be broadcast on Africa Magic Family channel 154.

Airtel Touching Lives season 6 was premiered on Friday, May 13 in Lagos at an exclusive event that was attended by several dignitaries.

Managing Director and Chief Executive Officer of Airtel Nigeria, Mr Surendran Chemmenkotil, while speaking at the event, said Airtel Touching Lives has not only recorded milestones but has offered real help to individuals, communities, groups, and institutions since the launch of the initiative.

“In Season 6, Airtel Nigeria has helped to rebuild a dream, a life, a hospital. We helped children rebuild their confidence, get an education, and we tested millions for COVID. We turned tears of sadness into tears of Joy,” he stated.

Mr Chemmenkotil further encouraged other corporate entities as well as well-spirited individuals to join hands in improving the society, as collaboration to solve societal problems can make a huge difference, and if the privileged people continue to support the needy, society will excel and triumph at a quicker pace.

Airtel Touching Lives takes the format of a reality television show, allowing the public to nominate causes, communities, and underprivileged persons/people with special needs. Airtel thereafter evaluates and selects the causes to support, and the activities are filmed and broadcasted on terrestrial and satellite television stations with the aim of inspiring other corporate organizations as well as well-meaning individuals to join in supporting the weak across society.

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